It isn't as if she was just a little girl that needed our protection so much. It is the question I ask myself-How old are kids supposed to be when they take responsibility and adults take none?
My daughter was 16 when she was playing cards with her dad's girlfriend and sister one night. They fed her alcohol all night long. Enough to create a dangerous level of alcohol in her system-she stopped breathing and went by ambulance to the Emergency room with a blood alcohol level of 250.
The ensuing fallout between her dad, his girlfriend and myself went something like this-
(Since he did not go to the emergency room with us, stayed at his front door in his bathrobe watching me help her out the door)-since no one woke when she screamed and she called me at 330 in the morning-
his girlfriend denied she ever gave drinks to my 16 year old daughter. Claimed she must have had them after they all passed out.
The police came and asked me if I wanted them to investigate-and I downplayed it-because I did not want to get her father (who is well known in the community) in trouble.
Her father immediately blamed her, eventually blaming me-accusing me of poisoning her mind against him.
I knew the trashing of me might happen, but after having known him for twenty years, and considering him my best friend, I hoped with some time he might think about the events and start questioning the events, rather than blaming her.
He and his girlfriend responded by claiming they would keep alcohol locked up around her-because of course she drank without their knowledge.
This response brought only disgust and disappointment from our daughter.
All the claims of love by him or my running interference with her, didn't budge her off the fact he never even asked her about the events of that night, believes his girlfriends story and now blames me.
I grieve for my friend (or what I thought was a friendship) and I am sad that they do not speak.
If his girlfriend told him the truth there might be a chance for their relationship, I would gladly stay out of the picture for the remainder of our lives, if it made a difference for my daughter and her dad.
It saddens me that he would think I would trash him to his daughter. Although I have raised her alone, I have always supported their relationship, making the effort to keep the communication lines open.
Now that I am aware of his feelings about me after all these years, I wonder, did he ever really see me as his friend?
Sometimes I think women(me) paint pictures in their heads of things that maybe really don't exist.
Somewhere in the back of my mind, I knew, when I took a stand on this situation, and told him I felt it was dangerous and his girlfriend could not be trusted with our daughter, that would be the end of any communication we had.
It is up to my daughter now, two months later and now seventeern.
She wants nothing to do with him.
She feels betrayed. She is hurt that he would disparage me -after years of seeing us get along.
Or perhaps, maybe she and I both thought that but it wan't true?
She is alive, and I am thankful. I love my daughter. Her relationship with her dad is up to her, not me.
No more running interference. I would call him and give him a heads up about how she was feeling, and try to do the same for him during the rough patches. I see that was a mistake.
Now that it is up to her-she doesn't want to talk to him.
Perhaps time will heal this for them.
For me, I can't seem to get the picture out of my head of her face, cold, blue and white, and unmoving, not breathing, in my arms, in the back of the car at 3:30 in the morning.
I am so thankful she is ok, as I write this, I realize, nothing else is as important.
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Huffington Post Jumps the Shark
Huffington Post Jumps the Shark
"Huffington Post-Breaking News" has become a joke.
The headline? "Ariana -Why Joe Biden should resign -What the headline should read is, "Ariana, the new Rush Limbaugh-taking herself too seriously, now believing her own hype....
Huffington Post has become a parody of news.
Tina Fey, 24-Year-Old Virgin: I 'Couldn't Give It Away'
The headline? "Ariana -Why Joe Biden should resign -What the headline should read is, "Ariana, the new Rush Limbaugh-taking herself too seriously, now believing her own hype....
Huffington Post has become a parody of news.
Tina Fey, 24-Year-Old Virgin: I 'Couldn't Give It Away'
Glenn Beck Shows Off His Olbermann, Matthews Impersonations
Conservative Attack Dog Slams Fox News And Bush
Conservative Attack Dog Slams Fox News And Bush
Megan Fox Gets Armani Gig, But Who's The Hottest Celeb Underwear Model Ever?
Gov. Perry: Executed Inmate "Was A Monster
Huffington Post has become another sensationalized media rag. Add it to the junkpile with CNN, USA Today, and of course, the spokesrag for the Republican Party-Fox aka blatantly bizarro news for the crazies.
Huffington Post has gone to the "light side".
Light on news, light on intellect and light on reason.
Monday, October 12, 2009
The Glee in Taking down the government-Fox News
What is it about relishing taking down our government? Why is it okay?
"Fox News" can call itself whatever it wants-millions of us ignore it-yet they prey upon ignorant, angry or racist citizens by lying, twisting or outright challenging our current presidential administration.
What people don't get is they are in it for the dollar.
Your dollar.
The one Bush stole from you and gave to his rich buddies-including Rupert Murdoch(the Australian?)
While the Obama Administration tries to pick up the pieces of the biggest mess in the history of our nation, Fox News, with great fanfare and relish, spends 24/7 lying, ambushing, twisting and hammering.
Ah, Bring back the Bush administration, who received white glove treatment from Fox news, which led us to this disastrous war we can't seem to stop, the climbing unemployment of our citizens, New Orleans, Wall Street.
What is with this craziness in the United States?
Why not just hand over what little the citizens have left to Fox News, the oil companies, Citibank, and other corporations taking your jobs and money offshore?
The United States of Fox News -taking down the US government one lie at a time-and taking your money with it. Fools
"Fox News" can call itself whatever it wants-millions of us ignore it-yet they prey upon ignorant, angry or racist citizens by lying, twisting or outright challenging our current presidential administration.
What people don't get is they are in it for the dollar.
Your dollar.
The one Bush stole from you and gave to his rich buddies-including Rupert Murdoch(the Australian?)
While the Obama Administration tries to pick up the pieces of the biggest mess in the history of our nation, Fox News, with great fanfare and relish, spends 24/7 lying, ambushing, twisting and hammering.
Ah, Bring back the Bush administration, who received white glove treatment from Fox news, which led us to this disastrous war we can't seem to stop, the climbing unemployment of our citizens, New Orleans, Wall Street.
What is with this craziness in the United States?
Why not just hand over what little the citizens have left to Fox News, the oil companies, Citibank, and other corporations taking your jobs and money offshore?
The United States of Fox News -taking down the US government one lie at a time-and taking your money with it. Fools
Sunday, October 11, 2009
Let's Lobby the Lobbyists Out!!!
The first priority of President Obama when taking office was to restrict lobbying of our legislators and government officials.
Impossible. Their insidious tentacles weave throughout our government affecting every small business, farmer, entrepreneur, educational system, dairy farmer, health care, government worker and yes, even the Avon ladies of our country.
Those who freak at media scares over the swine flu should be paying more attention to the virus currently killing thousands, if not millions in our country.
Lobbyists-for corporations which have taken our jobs overseas, broken the backs of unions, jacked up the prices of produce and dairy products, kept our energy prices exaggeratedly inflated, created massive layoffs in the auto industry by allowing foreign auto companies huge tax breaks to build in our country, won concessions from the government to hide massive amounts of our dollars in offshore banking institutions, and continue each day to rape our country of our natural and made made resources, leaving us citizens unemployed .
Welcome to the new poor.
Those having worked all their lives, followed the governmen'ts recommendations to invest in 401k's,
buy homes and purchase goods and services in the USA, now, losing their homes, no safety net, working as if we were in the early 1900's, for a pittance, with the corporations calling the shots.
The world of reduced hours which means no benefits, no health insurance and no holiday pay.
We have regressed. We need to recognize it and get mad.
Do not kill the messenger. Get over your prejudices. Those feelings are only a smokescreen for the inability to take responsibility for the stupid trust we have given to past administrations handing over our livlihoods to greedy corporations.
Our first step?
Kick the lobbysists out of Washington.
Now!
Kick them out.
Kick out any legislator who accepts anything -campaign money, a trip to the Bahamas, a dinner, a pen.
No lobbyists.
Force legislators to make policy based upon the citizens of this country.
Kick them out.
Our government system is so corrupt with payoffs and lobbyists, our nation has become a mass of angry cynics.
Rather than clean it up we are on a road to self destruct.
Stop acting like petulant, grounded teenagers.
Let's work together and unravel the tentacles which strangle our democracy.
Start our own lobby.
Each citizen is a part of it.
Lobby the Lobbyists Out!
Impossible. Their insidious tentacles weave throughout our government affecting every small business, farmer, entrepreneur, educational system, dairy farmer, health care, government worker and yes, even the Avon ladies of our country.
Those who freak at media scares over the swine flu should be paying more attention to the virus currently killing thousands, if not millions in our country.
Lobbyists-for corporations which have taken our jobs overseas, broken the backs of unions, jacked up the prices of produce and dairy products, kept our energy prices exaggeratedly inflated, created massive layoffs in the auto industry by allowing foreign auto companies huge tax breaks to build in our country, won concessions from the government to hide massive amounts of our dollars in offshore banking institutions, and continue each day to rape our country of our natural and made made resources, leaving us citizens unemployed .
Welcome to the new poor.
Those having worked all their lives, followed the governmen'ts recommendations to invest in 401k's,
buy homes and purchase goods and services in the USA, now, losing their homes, no safety net, working as if we were in the early 1900's, for a pittance, with the corporations calling the shots.
The world of reduced hours which means no benefits, no health insurance and no holiday pay.
We have regressed. We need to recognize it and get mad.
Do not kill the messenger. Get over your prejudices. Those feelings are only a smokescreen for the inability to take responsibility for the stupid trust we have given to past administrations handing over our livlihoods to greedy corporations.
Our first step?
Kick the lobbysists out of Washington.
Now!
Kick them out.
Kick out any legislator who accepts anything -campaign money, a trip to the Bahamas, a dinner, a pen.
No lobbyists.
Force legislators to make policy based upon the citizens of this country.
Kick them out.
Our government system is so corrupt with payoffs and lobbyists, our nation has become a mass of angry cynics.
Rather than clean it up we are on a road to self destruct.
Stop acting like petulant, grounded teenagers.
Let's work together and unravel the tentacles which strangle our democracy.
Start our own lobby.
Each citizen is a part of it.
Lobby the Lobbyists Out!
Saturday, October 10, 2009
President Obama-Nobel Peace Prize-Acknowledging Our Hope
I read somewhere that during our Presidential Election, many Europeans stated they wished they could vote.
A worldwide sigh of relief waved over earth at President Obama's victory. His words -balm from a world of countries, many hundreds if not thousands of years older than our adolescent behaving country.
Sarah Palin spoke the truth about "going rogue". It is how the United States behaved, frightening countries, fearful; of our aggressive and unpredictable behavior. Wary and distrustful of an arrogant and immature government, so full of themselves, we sneered at global warning, ignored our citizens during disaster, and told others, with a sneer and a spit to , "bring it on".
We believed our 9/11 was the most horrific event on Planet Earth, while genocide and starvation, rape and mutilation took place in a number of countries on a daily basis.
Slowly our own greed eroded our financial system, a cynical corrupt government overrun by lobbyists turned backs on Americans, and eventually, on election day, we watched, as our country's own greed and lawlessness rippled through our citizens, affecting the health and welfare from babies to seniors.
Civilized countries, struggled with the fallout of Americans greed and recklessness, yet the safety nets remain,
health care, senior care, infant care, remains a staple in those countries. We, however, seem to want to self destruct, hanging onto a belief that it ain't broke, so don't fix it.
That Nobel Peace Prize is a dove, holding an olive branch.
A message to President Obama and all those who elected him, that yes, we are on the right road- at last. Civilized countries reach out with that prize, to give us hope, encouragement and a heartfelt message-
Yes, President Obama, Yes, Americans who support his policies, You are on the right track-help us , our world, evolve, move toward a peaceful planet-where each of us is worth the effort to reach out, listen and solve problems in a non aggressive way.
Don't lose hope, President Obama. Stay the course. I believe in you. Do what it takes to lead us into that new world of civilized behavior. We will turn our backs on those who will do whatever it takes to destroy our vision. We will keep moving forward.
Let those who believe they would rather destroy our country than have a government which is led by a black President, who represents the hopes of our world leaders, cry aloud, cry "wolf" let them step up to say their piece so we can disprove them, reveal their lies and true mission-that they would rather see our country disappear than work toward a better world.
Those of us who are old enough to observe history-we see the damage done to our country-the attitude and feelings of hate and cynicism. The loss of respect, the lack of values. The very fabric of our country's democracy has been torn, burned, mutilated- hardly recognizable.
The Nobel Peace Prize is the civilized world's gentle hand on our shoulder, nudging us forward , as we awkwardly, move through adolescence, into an adulthood of responsibility and consideration for all.
A worldwide sigh of relief waved over earth at President Obama's victory. His words -balm from a world of countries, many hundreds if not thousands of years older than our adolescent behaving country.
Sarah Palin spoke the truth about "going rogue". It is how the United States behaved, frightening countries, fearful; of our aggressive and unpredictable behavior. Wary and distrustful of an arrogant and immature government, so full of themselves, we sneered at global warning, ignored our citizens during disaster, and told others, with a sneer and a spit to , "bring it on".
We believed our 9/11 was the most horrific event on Planet Earth, while genocide and starvation, rape and mutilation took place in a number of countries on a daily basis.
Slowly our own greed eroded our financial system, a cynical corrupt government overrun by lobbyists turned backs on Americans, and eventually, on election day, we watched, as our country's own greed and lawlessness rippled through our citizens, affecting the health and welfare from babies to seniors.
Civilized countries, struggled with the fallout of Americans greed and recklessness, yet the safety nets remain,
health care, senior care, infant care, remains a staple in those countries. We, however, seem to want to self destruct, hanging onto a belief that it ain't broke, so don't fix it.
That Nobel Peace Prize is a dove, holding an olive branch.
A message to President Obama and all those who elected him, that yes, we are on the right road- at last. Civilized countries reach out with that prize, to give us hope, encouragement and a heartfelt message-
Yes, President Obama, Yes, Americans who support his policies, You are on the right track-help us , our world, evolve, move toward a peaceful planet-where each of us is worth the effort to reach out, listen and solve problems in a non aggressive way.
Don't lose hope, President Obama. Stay the course. I believe in you. Do what it takes to lead us into that new world of civilized behavior. We will turn our backs on those who will do whatever it takes to destroy our vision. We will keep moving forward.
Let those who believe they would rather destroy our country than have a government which is led by a black President, who represents the hopes of our world leaders, cry aloud, cry "wolf" let them step up to say their piece so we can disprove them, reveal their lies and true mission-that they would rather see our country disappear than work toward a better world.
Those of us who are old enough to observe history-we see the damage done to our country-the attitude and feelings of hate and cynicism. The loss of respect, the lack of values. The very fabric of our country's democracy has been torn, burned, mutilated- hardly recognizable.
The Nobel Peace Prize is the civilized world's gentle hand on our shoulder, nudging us forward , as we awkwardly, move through adolescence, into an adulthood of responsibility and consideration for all.
Sunday, October 04, 2009
Another "Opt Out" Story We get what we pay for-no more-no less-the end
I bought twelve months of XM Satellite radio.
I paid for it with my credit card.
No contract.
Just paid for one year.
I get a collection bill in the mail for 26 dollars.
According to XM they are authorized to continue my service for one month beyond what I pay for and bill me for it.
Is this for real?
Since when do you get to authorize your own service to me when I paid for 12 months?
Suck it up, XM.
Take me to court..
I am sick of companies screwing us by "fine printing".
There needs to be a new law protecting consumers.
Consumers pay money for a certain service and a certain amount, period.
If businesses decide to not cancel after that agreed upon amount has ended they need to eat it.
We get what we pay for -no more-no less-the end.
I paid for it with my credit card.
No contract.
Just paid for one year.
I get a collection bill in the mail for 26 dollars.
According to XM they are authorized to continue my service for one month beyond what I pay for and bill me for it.
Is this for real?
Since when do you get to authorize your own service to me when I paid for 12 months?
Suck it up, XM.
Take me to court..
I am sick of companies screwing us by "fine printing".
There needs to be a new law protecting consumers.
Consumers pay money for a certain service and a certain amount, period.
If businesses decide to not cancel after that agreed upon amount has ended they need to eat it.
We get what we pay for -no more-no less-the end.
When Irrationality Drives Our Health Care Decisions..
What is it about affordable health care for all that makes normal people act irrationally?
I'm stumped.
Real facts, real figures, real experiences don't cut it with America.
I have worked in health care a good chunk of my life. I am old enough to remember the transition from treating need to treating based on ability to pay.
Twenty years ago the phrase, "Your insurance doesn't cover that" would have been against the Hippocratic Oath.
Now Doctors hide behind HMO's fearing the dwindling of income, mute.
Michael Moore wants to throw in the towel. Truth is not a motivator for outrage and change.
I don't understand and I am to the point where I don't want to anymore.
My country is full of crazy people where the number one TV station is Fox News, and they believe Rush Limbaugh and Sean Hannity. They buy books written by crazy authors who tell them the rich need to be protected and for some reason they believe it.
They go to "Tea Parties" protecting the rich from tax increases.
They refuse to allow the President of the United States to speak with their children.
They believe the crazy media stories about dictatorships and socialism.
They begin to write about harming our President.
Insanity. Crazy, bizarre, unpredictable insanity.
Give this country psychotic meds.
When eighty year olds smugly tell 50 year olds they don't deserve the same Medicare benefits-"quit smoking and drinking"
I can't think about it anymore.
Crazy people will run this country. Crazy people own it now.
The day I have a fistful of dollars in my pocket, my visa, passport and citizenship will be left at the doorstep of the United States.
Don't bother with the insults, I've heard them all. Insults are a national past time.
The United States of America is one mean, ugly country today.
I'm stumped.
Real facts, real figures, real experiences don't cut it with America.
I have worked in health care a good chunk of my life. I am old enough to remember the transition from treating need to treating based on ability to pay.
Twenty years ago the phrase, "Your insurance doesn't cover that" would have been against the Hippocratic Oath.
Now Doctors hide behind HMO's fearing the dwindling of income, mute.
Michael Moore wants to throw in the towel. Truth is not a motivator for outrage and change.
I don't understand and I am to the point where I don't want to anymore.
My country is full of crazy people where the number one TV station is Fox News, and they believe Rush Limbaugh and Sean Hannity. They buy books written by crazy authors who tell them the rich need to be protected and for some reason they believe it.
They go to "Tea Parties" protecting the rich from tax increases.
They refuse to allow the President of the United States to speak with their children.
They believe the crazy media stories about dictatorships and socialism.
They begin to write about harming our President.
Insanity. Crazy, bizarre, unpredictable insanity.
Give this country psychotic meds.
When eighty year olds smugly tell 50 year olds they don't deserve the same Medicare benefits-"quit smoking and drinking"
I can't think about it anymore.
Crazy people will run this country. Crazy people own it now.
The day I have a fistful of dollars in my pocket, my visa, passport and citizenship will be left at the doorstep of the United States.
Don't bother with the insults, I've heard them all. Insults are a national past time.
The United States of America is one mean, ugly country today.
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