The Broken Hearted Man

Men get a bad rap with women today. The years have not treated them kindly. As women's roles have changed over the years and they have become self sufficient and often work just as many if not more hours women have come to expect men to be more than human.

Women keep little emotional account books inside their heads. They tabulate what they considered the emotionally deficit sins of omission and keep them in columns, adding and subtracting to what they consider men's behaviors will make the quota.
Of course , men have been complaining for the last twenty years (or maybe forever) they don't know what the mean is so how can they follow the rules and make sure they are getting more credits on that page than deficits?

If ever the time comes where the deficits in red are alarming the woman dumps him with a vague or even worse specific catalogue of faults, stunning the guy into a humble, emotionally crumble, wondering how they never saw such awful qualities in themselves.

Has that ever happened to you? It must feel a little blindsiding. Lucky for us men are willing to jump back in after a time with the hope that somewhere out in the world is a woman who will click with them, warts and all.

Men do something I consider very healthy when it comes to relationships. They are part of one, not the whole thing. Most men have other interests, activities and can spend time alone without fearing a loss of validation. They can travel, hang out, go have a drink, watch TV, work out and even go to the bathroom by themselves.

Women on the other hand , or very few, would consider going out to eat alone, seeing a movie on their own or taking a trip to some unknown land without taking a friend or going in a group.

I really admire men who can get on a plane and go snorkeling in Grand Cayman without taking their buddies or having to have a body with them at all times.

The old Venus and Mars is just another excuse for women to be less independent. If most of the disagreements in a relationship are about that accounting page of emotional deficits I say a woman has way too much time on her hands and needs to grow up.

It's a big life out there. Open up that accounting book to include lots of people and not expect one person to keep those columns running.

Women need to take a page out of man's book. Make sure you have a life before you start dismantling his. His is probably healthier.